网上有个话题讨论度颇高：一个人真正成熟的标志是什么？

There is a highly discussed topic online: What are the signs of a person's true maturity?

一个回答是：即便内心波涛汹涌，表面也能云淡风轻，低谷时能调整好自己，高处时也能坚守好本心。

One answer is: even if the inner waves are turbulent, the surface can remain calm, adjust oneself during low times, and stick to one's true heart during high times.

如果用四个字总结，大抵就是：管理情绪。

If summarized in four words, it would be: managing emotions.

生活中，每个人都免不了会遇到许多烦心事。

In life, everyone inevitably encounters many troubles.

有些人总会抱怨周遭某些人和事，要他人为自己的坏心情负责。

Some people always complain about certain people and things around them, and hold others responsible for their bad mood.

但其实，人难免会有负面情绪，我们需要做的是正确与它相处。

But in fact, people inevitably have negative emotions, and what we need to do is to get along with them correctly.

当愤怒来临时，我们要做的不是压抑或者清理它们。

When anger comes, what we need to do is not suppress or cleanse them.

而是要对自己的情绪负起责任，探索情绪背后隐藏的感受与需要，然后表达出它们。

But rather, one should take responsibility for their emotions, explore the feelings and needs hidden behind them, and then express them.

只有这样，我们才能诚实、清晰地表达自己，才能带着尊重与同理心关注他人。

Only in this way can we express ourselves honestly and clearly, and pay attention to others with respect and empathy.

戒掉冲动，放下抱怨，做一个为自己的情绪负起责任的人，才能让生活多一点风平浪静。

Quitting impulsiveness, letting go of complaints, and being a responsible person for one's emotions can make life more peaceful.