视频加载中...Imagine this scenario. You're at work and it's already been a busy week. 想象一下这个场景。你在工作，这已经是忙碌的一周了。 In fact, you're up to your eyeballs or up to your limit with tasks that are due tomorrow, and then at the end of the day, you get an email from your boss asking you to take on one more major responsibility. 事实上，明天到期的任务已经达到了你的眼球或极限，然后在一天结束时，你会收到老板的电子邮件，要求你再承担一项主要责任。 How would you describe the way you might feel in that particular situation? Or what about this? 你会如何描述在那种情况下你的感受？或者这个呢？ You're at a family event enjoying lively conversation with everyone else, and then someone begins to gossip or speak negatively about a fellow family member. 你在一个家庭活动中享受与其他人的热烈交谈，然后有人开始八卦或负面谈论一个家庭成员。 You no longer feel comfortable engaging in the conversation. Both of these situations require the ability to set boundaries and relationships to maintain emotional and mental health. 你不再觉得参与谈话很舒服。这两种情况都需要设定界限和关系的能力来保持情感和心理健康。 The challenge is how do you communicate those boundaries in English? When you don't know the precise language to set boundaries, you might feel powerless. 挑战在于你如何用英语传达这些界限？当你不知道设定界限的精确语言时，你可能会感到无能为力。 I can tell you boundary setting has been a hot topic of conversation inside my Confident Women Community and here's why. 我可以告诉你，在我的自信女性社区里，边界设置一直是一个热门话题，原因如下。 The ability to set boundaries allows us to have healthier relationships and have more effective communication. That means setting boundaries is an essential skill both professionally and personally. 设定界限的能力让我们拥有更健康的关系和更有效的沟通。这意味着设定界限是职业和个人的一项基本技能。 In this Confident English lesson today we're going to explore what boundaries are and why they're important. 在今天的自信英语课中，我们将探讨什么是界限以及为什么它们很重要。 This includes a variety of boundary types, including physical boundaries, verbal boundaries, emotional boundaries, and more. 这包括各种边界类型，包括物理边界、语言边界、情感边界等等。 More importantly, you'll have practical tips you can use to set boundaries and get specific words and phrases we use in English to do this so that you're able to communicate how you feel and what you consider to be acceptable. 更重要的是，你会有实用的技巧来设定界限，并获得我们在英语中使用的特定单词和短语来做到这一点，这样你就能够交流你的感受和你认为可以接受的东西。 By the end of this lesson, you'll be able to communicate your boundaries in English personally and professionally for healthier, more effective relationships. 在这节课结束时，你将能够以个人和专业的方式用英语交流你的界限，更健康，更有效的关系。 But first, if you don't already know, I'm Annemarie with Speak Confident English. Everything I do here is designed to help you get the confidence you want for your life and work in English. 但是首先，如果你还不知道，我是说自信英语的安妮玛丽。我在这里所做的一切都是为了帮助你在英语生活和工作中获得你想要的信心。 One way I do that is with my weekly Confident English lessons where I share my top fluency and confidence-building strategies, advanced-level vocabulary lessons, and training on communication skills just like in this lesson today. 我这样做的一种方法是通过我每周的自信英语课程，在那里我分享我的顶级流利性和建立信心的策略、高级词汇课程以及沟通技巧培训，就像今天的这节课一样。 So while you're here, make sure you subscribe to my Speak Confident English YouTube channel so you never miss one of these Confident English lessons. 所以当你在这里的时候，一定要订阅我的说自信英语 YouTube 频道，这样你就不会错过这些自信英语课程。 To get started, let's briefly review what it means to set a boundary and why this is so important. 首先，让我们简要回顾一下设置边界意味着什么以及为什么这如此重要。 To set a boundary means to dictate the amount of time, money, emotional resources, and energy you can or are willing to give to others. 设定界限意味着决定你可以或愿意给予他人的时间、金钱、情感资源和精力。 When we communicate what those boundaries are, we set clear expectations for others and that leads to healthier relationships at home, in the workplace and in the community. 当我们沟通这些界限时，我们为他人设定了明确的期望，这导致了家庭、工作场所和社区中更健康的关系。 Those boundaries also protect us from harm and stress. They promote wellbeing and also help us maintain better work life balance. 这些界限也保护我们免受伤害和压力。它们促进幸福，也帮助我们保持更好的工作和生活平衡。 When we first begin the process of establishing what our boundaries are, we need to take into account our personal values, wants and needs. 当我们第一次开始确定我们的界限时，我们需要考虑我们的个人价值观、欲望和需求。 It's also important to remember there are multiple types of boundaries, including physical, emotional, time, and mental, sexual, spiritual and religious and financial or material boundaries. 同样重要的是要记住有多种类型的界限，包括身体、情感、时间和精神、性、精神和宗教以及财务或物质界限。 Now, one thing I want to be careful of is confusing a boundary with this idea of being rigid or unwilling to budge, unwilling to compromise. 现在，我想小心的一件事是混淆界限和僵化的想法，不愿让步，不愿妥协。 A better way to think about boundaries is that they're dynamic and they reflect where you currently are in your personal growth, values, needs, and so on. 思考界限的一个更好的方法是，它们是动态的，它们反映了你目前在个人成长、价值观、需求等方面所处的位置。 All of that can change over the course of your life or even within a short period of time. In fact, as your comfort zone expands or even shrinks, your boundaries will change as well. 所有这些都可以在你的一生中改变，甚至在很短的时间内改变。事实上，随着你舒适区的扩大甚至缩小，你的界限也会改变。 With that in mind, I want to share with you four simple steps that you can use to help you set and maintain boundaries in English. First, analyze the problem. 考虑到这一点，我想和你分享四个简单的步骤，你可以用它们来帮助你设定和维护英语的界限。首先，分析问题。 Second, define your boundary. Circle third, communicate with clarity and finally reinforce your boundaries. 第二，定义你的边界。圆圈第三，清晰地沟通，最终强化你的边界。 I want to take time to explore each one in depth and look at specific language we use in English to set boundaries with others. 我想花时间深入探索每一个，看看我们在英语中使用的特定语言来与他人划清界限。 So step number one, analyze the problem. We cannot effectively communicate boundaries until we know what the real issue is. Let me go back to that scenario I described at the beginning of the lesson. 所以第一步，分析问题。在我们知道真正的问题是什么之前，我们无法有效地沟通界限。让我回到我在课程开始时描述的场景。 You're at work, you're already overwhelmed with tasks, and then your boss asks you to take on one more. In the moment, you might feel immediate exasperation, anger, frustration, or overwhelm. In fact, the emotion might be so strong that you can't even communicate it. 你在工作，你已经被任务淹没了，然后你的老板要求你再承担一个。此刻，你可能会立即感到恼怒、愤怒、沮丧或不知所措。事实上，这种情绪可能如此强烈，以至于你甚至无法交流。 You feel paralyzed or powerless in communicating what is wrong. 你在交流问题时感到瘫痪或无能为力。 To help you gain control and clarity, there are a few questions you can ask and in asking these questions, in taking time to reflect on them, you can identify what the real problem is and begin to determine alternatives as well as what is the boundary that you need to communicate to others. 为了帮助你获得控制和清晰，你可以问几个问题，在问这些问题时，花时间思考它们，你可以确定真正的问题是什么，并开始确定替代方案，以及你需要与他人沟通的边界是什么。 The questions you can analyze include what is the problem? 你可以分析的问题包括问题是什么？ What just happened in that situation that led to the feeling that something was wrong or done inappropriately? The second question, why is this a problem? Why is it unacceptable to you? 在那种情况下刚刚发生了什么，导致了某种错误或做得不恰当的感觉？第二个问题，为什么这是个问题？为什么你不能接受？ What value, belief, want or need does it overstep? 它超越了什么价值、信念、想要或需要？ Question number three, what is preventing you from accepting this individual's comment or request? And question four, what do you need or what do you want to solve this problem? 第三个问题，是什么阻止你接受这个人的评论或请求？第四个问题，你需要什么或者你想解决这个问题？ Let me share with you what some possible answers to those questions might be for someone in that situation who just got an extra task at work. 让我和你们分享一下，对于那些刚刚在工作中得到额外任务的人来说，这些问题的一些可能的答案。 An answer to question number one, what is the problem might be, I already have several tasks to complete and I can't take on one more. 第一个问题的答案是，问题可能是什么，我已经有几个任务要完成，我不能再承担一个了。 Why is this a problem? Because I've already taken on a lot of extra tasks and taking on one more might mean that these other priorities will get put on the back burner. 为什么这是个问题？因为我已经承担了很多额外的任务，再承担一项可能意味着这些其他优先事项将被搁置一旁。 The third question was, what might prevent you from accepting someone else's comment or request? And an answer in this particular scenario might be limited time and capacity. 第三个问题是，什么会阻止你接受别人的评论或请求？在这种情况下，答案可能是时间和能力有限。 You might feel that there isn't enough time or mental resources available to complete this additional task. And finally, the last question, what do you want or need to solve this problem? 你可能会觉得没有足够的时间或精神资源来完成这项额外的任务。最后，最后一个问题，你想要或需要什么来解决这个问题？ An answer to that might be, I need this task to be delegated to someone else, and perhaps you need your manager to understand that you're already at capacity. Now, your answers to those questions are just for you. 答案可能是，我需要把这项任务委托给别人，也许你需要你的经理明白你已经满负荷了。现在，你对这些问题的答案只是给你的。 They're helping you gain clarity on what the problem is so that you can communicate your boundaries with clarity. But before we do that, we need to go on to step two, define your boundary circle. 它们帮助你弄清楚问题是什么，这样你就可以清晰地传达你的界限。但是在我们这样做之前，我们需要继续第二步，定义你的边界圈。 Creating or defining your boundary circle is a journaling exercise that can help you visualize what is acceptable and unacceptable to you. And if this is something you're interested in, I want to walk through step by step how you can define your boundary circle. To do this, you'll need a piece of paper and a pen or a pencil, and first you'll start by drawing a circle on your piece of paper. 创建或定义你的边界圆是一个日记练习，可以帮助你想象什么是可以接受的，什么是不可接受的。如果这是你感兴趣的，我想一步一步地介绍如何定义边界圆。要做到这一点，你需要一张纸、一支笔或一支铅笔，首先，你要在纸上画一个圆。 Inside the circle you'll write down anything you might need to feel safe, supported, seen, and heard by others. These can be others in your personal life or in your professional life. 在圆圈里，你会写下任何你可能需要的东西，让他人感到安全、支持、看到和听到。这些可以是你个人生活或职业生活中的其他人。 Outside the circle, you'll write down anything you find intolerable, uncomfortable or likely to drain your resources. Let me give you an example using a real life scenario. 在圈子之外，你会写下任何你觉得难以忍受、不舒服或可能耗尽你资源的事情。让我用现实生活中的场景给你举个例子。 Let's say you have a close family member who consistently disregards your dietary needs or preferences. 假设你有一个亲密的家庭成员，他一直无视你的饮食需求或偏好。 In fact, maybe at family gatherings, they totally ignore your dietary needs and as a result, your options are extremely limited. 事实上，也许在家庭聚会上，他们完全忽视了你的饮食需求，结果，你的选择非常有限。 There may be times you can't even enjoy eating with others. 有时候你甚至不能享受和别人一起吃饭的乐趣。 As you aim to define your boundary, circle some of the things you might include inside the circle include no judgment, a willingness to ask about your dietary needs and how they can meet them. 当你的目标是定义你的边界时，圈出一些你可能包括在圈内的东西，包括没有判断，愿意询问你的饮食需求以及他们如何满足这些需求。 Clear communication and open dialogue and acceptance. Those are the things you might include inside the circle to help you feel safe, supported, seen, and heard by a fellow family member outside the circle. 清晰的沟通和开放的对话和接受。这些是你可以包括在圈子里的东西，以帮助你感到安全，得到支持，被圈子外的家人看到和听到。 The unacceptable, the intolerable might be jokes about your dietary needs or pressure to eat other foods. 不可接受的，不可忍受的可能是关于你饮食需求的笑话或吃其他食物的压力。 Those words outside the circle might also include judgment, an unwillingness to understand and underhanded or inappropriate comments. 圈子之外的那些话也可能包括判断、不愿理解以及秘密或不恰当的评论。 Once you've completed those first two steps, gaining clarity on what the specific problem is and gaining clarity on the values, beliefs, needs or wants that have been overstepped, then we can go on to step three, communicate with clarity. 一旦你完成了前两步，弄清楚具体问题是什么，弄清楚被超越的价值观、信念、需求或愿望，然后我们可以继续第三步，清晰地沟通。 What this means is it's time for you to communicate your boundary to others to set clear expectations, and here are four tips to help you do that. First, it's important to clearly state what the boundary is. 这意味着是时候让你向别人传达你的边界来设定明确的期望了，这里有四个建议可以帮助你做到这一点。首先，清楚地说明边界是什么很重要。 Second, you can provide a clear reason. 第二，你可以提供一个明确的理由。 Third, be sure to use eye centered language and finally, build comfort or cultivate the courage. you need to say no when you need to say no. 第三，一定要使用以眼睛为中心的语言，最后，建立安慰或培养勇气。当你需要说不的时候，你需要说不。 Before we take a look at a couple of example scenarios, I want to share with you several phrases we can use in English to clearly communicate these boundaries. Here are some examples you can consider. 在我们看几个示例场景之前，我想与您分享几个我们可以在英语中使用的短语来清楚地传达这些界限。这里有一些你可以考虑的例子。 I don't feel comfortable with X because for example, I don't feel comfortable with how you make jokes about my dietary needs because, or I value your thoughts on this and I would feel more comfortable if a third structure might be I feel X when I feel hurt when you make jokes followed by because the reason, and then finally, please don't do Y. 我对 X 感到不舒服，因为例如，我对你拿我的饮食需求开玩笑感到不舒服，因为，或者我重视你在这方面的想法，如果第三个结构可能是当我感到受伤时，我会感到更舒服，当你开玩笑时，然后是因为原因，最后，请不要做 Y。 This is where we're communicating the boundary. 这是我们沟通边界的地方。 Please don't make jokes about, and finally, I would appreciate it if you could do X because those four phrases are excellent ways to communicate your boundaries and they're using that I centered language. 请不要开玩笑，最后，如果你能做 X，我将不胜感激，因为这四个短语是传达你界限的绝佳方式，它们使用的是以我为中心的语言。 What that means is rather than me point the finger and blame someone else, I'm keeping the focus on how I feel and what I expect or need out of different situations. 这意味着我不是指责别人，而是专注于我的感受以及我对不同情况的期望或需要。 Now, I mentioned that when setting clear boundaries, we may also need to say no from time to time, and if you're unsure of how to say no politely in English, here are a few phrases you can use. 现在，我提到在设定明确的界限时，我们可能还需要不时说不，如果你不确定如何用英语礼貌地说不，这里有几个短语你可以使用。 Number one, thank you for thinking of me. However, this is something I am unable to do at this time because, and then provide a simple reason for why you're saying no. 第一，谢谢你为我着想。然而，这是我现在无法做到的，因为，然后提供一个简单的理由来解释你为什么说不。 It doesn't have to be too personal, nor does it need to be in depth, but there does need to be some simple reason for saying no. 它不一定要太私人，也不需要深入，但说不确实需要一些简单的理由。 A second way to say no is no, I can't do X at this point in time. Right now I'm, and then you might include what you're currently focused on or doing, and a third option, I understand the urgency of your request. 说不的第二种方式是不，我现在不能做 X。现在我是，然后你可以包括你目前专注或正在做的事情，第三个选择，我理解你要求的紧迫性。 Unfortunately, I'm at full capacity and I can't take this on With those example phrases in mind, I want to demonstrate how we would use them in two real life scenarios. 不幸的是，我已经满负荷了，我不能接受这个。记住这些例句，我想演示我们如何在两个现实生活场景中使用它们。 For this first example scenario, I want you to imagine you have a neighbor who loves to mow their lawn or do yard work at the most inconvenient times. 对于第一个示例场景，我想让你想象你有一个邻居，他喜欢在最不方便的时候修剪草坪或做庭院工作。 In fact, the loud noise regularly disrupts your meetings and your thinking time or your work time to set a clear boundary and have a healthier relationship with your neighbor. You might say this, I would appreciate it if you didn't mow the lawn between 10:00 AM and 11:30 AM on weekdays, the noise of your lawnmower is quite loud and it regularly disrupts my meetings. 事实上，巨大的噪音经常扰乱你的会议和思考时间或工作时间，以设定一个清晰的界限，并与你的邻居建立更健康的关系。你可能会这么说，如果你没有在工作日上午 10:00 到 11:30 之间修剪草坪，我将不胜感激，你的割草机的噪音很大，它经常扰乱我的会议。 Is there an alternative solution we can consider? In that example, do you notice that I'm stating the clear boundary right away? I'm providing a reason and I'm using IC centered language. 我们可以考虑其他解决方案吗？在这个例子中，你注意到我马上陈述了清晰的边界吗？我提供了一个原因，我使用了以集成电路为中心的语言。 I also end with a polite request or a willingness to find some alternative or some solution that works for both individuals involved. 最后，我还提出了一个礼貌的请求，或者愿意找到一些替代方案，或者一些对双方都有效的解决方案。 I want to share with you a second situation to highlight how we would use these phrases to set clear boundaries and for this situation, I want you to imagine you have a coworker who has the tendency to push larger, very time consuming tasks onto your plate at the very last minute in order to put a stop to this ongoing problem. 我想和你们分享第二种情况，强调我们将如何使用这些短语来设定清晰的界限，对于这种情况，我想让你想象一下，你有一个同事，他倾向于在最后一刻把更大的、非常耗时的任务推到你的盘子里，以阻止这个持续的问题。 It's important to communicate a boundary and here's how you could do that. 沟通边界是很重要的，下面是你可以做到的。 Thank you for thinking of me. However, this is something I'm unable to take on right now due to my existing commitments. 谢谢你为我着想。然而，由于我现有的承诺，这是我现在无法承担的事情。 If you need my help for any future projects, please be sure to give me a heads up far in advance so that I can help you accordingly. Again, in that example, I've clearly stated the boundary. 如果你在未来的任何项目中需要我的帮助，请务必提前给我一个提醒，这样我就可以相应地帮助你。同样，在那个例子中，我已经清楚地说明了边界。 I've provided a reason why and I've used I centered language. Once you've communicated your boundary with clarity, it's time to go on to step number four, reinforce your boundary. 我已经提供了一个原因，我使用了以我为中心的语言。一旦你清晰地传达了你的边界，是时候继续第四步了，强化你的边界。 What this means is to hold your ground after you've set a boundary. In other words, you don't give in to pressure to change or to be willing to break your boundary. Just one more time. 这意味着在你设定了边界后坚持你的立场。换句话说，你不会屈服于改变或愿意打破你的界限的压力。再来一次。 This potential for allowing a boundary to be crossed again and again and again is potentially true after setting a new boundary with someone. 在与某人设定新边界后，这种允许边界一次又一次被跨越的潜力可能是真实的。 As a result, it's important to be ready to reinforce your boundary right from the start, and when it comes to reinforcing your boundaries, there are five things to keep in mind. Number one, be consistent. 因此，从一开始就准备好强化你的边界是很重要的，当谈到强化你的边界时，有五件事要记住。第一，保持一致。 Number two, share observations. Number three, provide further clarity if necessary. Number four, it's also important to provide next steps, and number five, use affirm but polite tone. 第二，分享观察结果。第三，如有必要，提供进一步的清晰度。第四，提供下一步也很重要，第五，使用肯定但礼貌的语气。 If you find that you need to reinforce your boundary with someone because there's the ongoing attempt to cross those boundaries, it's important to share your observations and some context. 如果你发现你需要加强你和某人的界限，因为有人一直试图跨越这些界限，分享你的观察和一些背景是很重要的。 Let me give you some example phrases we can use in English to do that effectively. 让我给你一些例句，我们可以在英语中有效地做到这一点。 The first one is I'm seeing X, and it's important to me that for example, I'm seeing that I'm continuing to get requests for last minute tasks even though I've requested advanced notice. 第一个是我看到 X，这对我很重要，例如，我看到我继续收到最后一分钟任务的请求，即使我已经要求提前通知。 It's important to me that I get those requests in advance so that I can help as needed and still get my existing priorities accomplished with that example statement, using the language I'm seeing X that indicates what I'm noticing or what my observations are, and then I further communicate my boundary and why it's important. 对我来说，提前收到这些请求很重要，这样我就可以根据需要提供帮助，并且仍然通过该示例语句完成我现有的优先事项，使用我看到的语言 X 来表示我注意到什么或我的观察是什么，然后我进一步传达我的边界以及为什么它很重要。 A second phrase you could use might be, I know we've talked about this in the past and I want to make it clear that, and again, you would restate your boundary and why it's important. 你可以使用的第二个短语可能是，我知道我们过去谈过这个，我想说清楚，再一次，你会重申你的边界以及为什么它很重要。 A third option, I'm noticing X, and I just want to remind you that this is very similar to the first one, and a fourth option might be, it makes me uncomfortable when X, please respect Y. Please respect this particular boundary. 第三个选项，我注意到 X，我只是想提醒你，这和第一个非常相似，第四个选项可能是，当 X 让我不舒服时，请尊重 Y。请尊重这个特殊的边界。 Should this continue, I will need to, and then you state what you might need to do, what action you may need to take. 如果这种情况继续下去，我需要，然后你说明你可能需要做什么，你可能需要采取什么行动。 These particular phrases can feel uncomfortable to communicate, however, maintaining a polite firm tone can be helpful. 这些特定的短语可能会让交流感到不舒服，然而，保持礼貌坚定的语气可能会有所帮助。 What I mean by that is the words we choose are firm. They're assertive, but we're keeping our voice very calm, very neutral. 我的意思是我们选择的词是坚定的。他们很自信，但我们保持声音非常平静，非常中立。 There's no sound of anger or frustration in our tone of voice. By maintaining that calm, neutral tone, we reduce any potential extra tension or friction in the situation. 我们的语气中没有愤怒或沮丧的声音。通过保持平静、中立的语气，我们减少了局势中任何潜在的额外紧张或摩擦。 I want to demonstrate this final step of reinforcing a boundary with two final example situations. 我想用最后两个例子来演示加强边界的最后一步。 In the first situation, I want you to imagine a friend constantly making jokes about someone's weight, and perhaps in the past that individual has made it clear that those jokes really hurt their feelings, and yet the jokes persist. 在第一种情况下，我想让你想象一个朋友经常拿某人的体重开玩笑，也许在过去，那个人已经明确表示这些笑话真的伤害了他们的感情，然而笑话仍然存在。 They continue to reinforce a boundary. Here's what you might say, Hey, I know we've talked about this in the past and I'm noticing that comments about my weight haven't stopped. 他们继续强化界限。你可能会这么说，嘿，我知道我们过去谈过这个，我注意到关于我体重的评论一直没有停止。 I want to make it clear that this isn't okay with me. I understand they're intended as jokes, but they really hurt my feelings, and if this continues, I will not continue our friendship. 我想说清楚，这对我来说不好。我知道它们是开玩笑的，但它们真的伤害了我的感情，如果这种情况继续下去，我不会继续我们的友谊。 In that example, I'm maintaining consistency by reiterating or restating a boundary I've said in the past. 在这个例子中，我通过重申或重述我过去说过的界限来保持一致性。 I'm also indicating what observations I have and providing more clarity, and while the language is firm, I'm maintaining a polite, neutral tone, trying to keep out any additional strong emotions so that I can communicate in a polite, assertive way. 我也会表明我的看法，并提供更多的说明，虽然语言坚定，但我保持礼貌、中性的语气，尽量避免任何额外的强烈情绪，以便以礼貌、自信的方式进行交流。 And finally, I include next steps in case they're necessary. Let's take a look at one more example of how we might use this language to reinforce boundaries, and this time we'll focus on a professional circumstance. 最后，我包括下一步，以防有必要。让我们再看一个例子，说明我们如何使用这种语言来强化界限，这次我们将关注专业环境。 Perhaps you have a coworker who continues to be late on deadlines and late for meetings despite having a clear boundary set in the past, and this individual has made it clear that there aren't any factors affecting her time management. 也许你有一个同事，尽管过去有明确的界限，但他仍然在截止日期前迟到，在会议上迟到，这个人已经明确表示没有任何因素影响她的时间管理。 To follow up on a conversation and reiterate this time boundary, here's what you could say, I'm noticing a continued pattern of arriving late for meetings and missing deadlines. 为了跟进谈话并重申这个时间界限，你可以这样说，我注意到开会迟到和错过最后期限的持续模式。 I want to remind you that the dates and times of our meetings and our deadlines are crucial to our company's goals and success. 我想提醒你，我们会议的日期和时间以及截止日期对我们公司的目标和成功至关重要。 Should this continue, I will need to act in the best interests of our team, and please let me know if there's anything you need from me to help manage time more effectively. 如果这种情况继续下去，我需要为我们团队的最大利益行事，如果您需要我做什么来帮助更有效地管理时间，请告诉我。 With that, you have four practical steps to help you set clear boundaries in relationships in English, and you have example phrases to help you along the way. 有了这个，你有四个实际步骤来帮助你在英语关系中设定清晰的界限，你有例句来帮助你。 To finish this lesson, I have one question for you. I'd love to know what strategies and phrases are most useful to you as you contemplate how to set boundaries in relationships in English. 为了完成这节课，我有一个问题要问你。当你考虑如何用英语设定人际关系的界限时，我很想知道什么策略和短语对你最有用。 You might have a situation happening in your personal or a professional life right now in which you need to set a clear boundary. 你现在可能在你的个人或职业生活中遇到了一种情况，你需要设定一个清晰的界限。 If you do and you want to practice, you can certainly share what you might like to say in the comments below. 如果你想练习，你当然可以在下面的评论中分享你想说的话。 I encourage you to try using some of the phrases that I've shared here or even follow the examples I've shared as templates, and if you found this lesson helpful to you, I would love to know. 我鼓励你尝试使用我在这里分享的一些短语，甚至遵循我分享的例子作为模板，如果你觉得这节课对你有帮助，我很想知道。 You can tell me in one very simple way. 你可以用一种非常简单的方式告诉我。 You can give this lesson a thumbs up here on YouTube, and while you're at it, don't forget to subscribe to the Speak Confident English Channel so you never miss one of my Confident English lessons. 你可以在 YouTube 这里竖起大拇指，当你在做的时候，别忘了订阅自信英语频道，这样你就不会错过我的自信英语课。 Thank you so much for joining me, and I look forward to seeing you next time. 非常感谢你加入我，我期待着下次见到你。